The Courage of Being Authentic
Stop Repeating the Same Fights. Move Into Courageous Connection.
Private Online Relational & Couples Consulting across Canada & the US
Areas of Specialization
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Deciding to Stay or Split:
Calm, compassionate guidance for couples asking "Can this marriage be saved?" to find clear direction before making major life decisions.
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Stopping High-Conflict Fight Loop:
Mapping out protective pursuer/withdrawer dynamics to stop explosive fights using Level 3 IFS and IFIO protocols.
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Rebuilding Safety & Trust After Betrayal:
Specialized IFIO facilitation for emotional safety, healthy boundaries, and genuine repair after broken trust or infidelity.
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Ending Shut-Downs & Distance:
Helping partners express deep emotional needs without shutting down, stonewalling, or reacting defensively.
My Therapeutic Approach
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EMDR (Evidence-based trauma processing)
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IFS & IFIO (Parts work for individuals and couples)
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Somatic Awareness & Compassionate Inquiry
Virtual Relational Coaching Across Canada, the USA (Specialized focus in Colorado & Florida)
English & Spanish
How We Work Together
Map Your Conflict Loop
- We uncover the exact triggers and protective patterns, pursuing, withdrawing, or defensive shutting down—that hijack your conversations.
Unblend & Regulate
- Using Level 3 IFS & IFIO protocols, both partners learn to step out of reactive "fight-or-flight" modes and access calm Self-leadership.
Courageous Connection
- Learn how to express your deepest needs without triggering your partner's defenses, restoring safety, trust, and deep intimacy.
Alchemy
The Science of Healing
Evidence-Based. Results-Driven. Neuro-Relational.
1. EMDR
First-line, evidence-based trauma intervention by the World Health Organization (WHO) and the American Psychological Association (APA)
2. IFS
Recognized as an evidence-based practice on the National Registry of Evidence-based Programs and Practices (NREPP) for improving general functioning and emotional well-being.
3. IFIO (Intimacy From the Inside Out)
Clinical studies show an 82% improvement in relational satisfaction and closeness by tracking and restructuring repetitive conflict loops.
Relational connection isn't about never fighting—it's about learning how to return to calm Self-leadership when things get hard
In the darkness, seeds awake and green shoots unfurl towards the light. Fate might shake us, but our roots run deep, and we have love to water them. And so we bloom where we are planted, grounded while we are ever expanding and stretching to the sun.
An Invitation to turn inward... together
Honouring your pace, your safe space to be...
